Blog: Becoming a family of refugees
Memories of a previous life: Starting a family, the Karabakh conflict and forced relocation
We drove up to the home of Abrik and Aida Agasyan in Martuni in the first half of the day, having called them the day before.
The Agasyan family home is in an area called Rusin Takhy which literally translates as ‘the Place of Russians’. The small single floor house wherein the Agasyan family live looks no different from the other houses, but we found it quite easily by following the door numbers. The lady of the house was there to give us a warm welcome. Not a tall woman, Aida smiled and invited us in to meet her son Grigory and daughter-in-law Rita. Then her husband Abrik arrived, a short grey-haired man about 70 years old. I introduced myself and explained why I was there. I felt Abrik was a little cold. But I thought, “it’s okay, I don’t want to rush things, he’ll probably come round later”. It turns out I was right and that’s what happened.
Refugees, IDPs – it’s a category of people that appears in all conflicts and unfortunately there’s no escaping that. A person can live their life, build a home, start a family, have children – everything may seem to be going well. But at some point everything falls apart and they are forced to leave the place they call home and move to somewhere new. In any new place you’ve got to get used to your surroundings and integrate into a new community – the same goes for the children. Adults find this a lot more difficult than children who are more flexible, communicative and find it easier to get used to their new surroundings. But let’s return back to the Agasyan family.
Aida, born in the village of Mushkapat, Martuni district, had just turned 18 when she got married to fellow countryman Abrik. He was born in the village of Haghorti, but was at that time already living in Baku. The young couple got a flat and lived in the village of Akhmedly. The husband worked in a Baku fridge factory and she was a housewife.
They had two sons, Grigory and Vladimir, and life was good. The children were growing up, going to school and Aida started working as a passport officer in the Narimanovskiy district. Grigory took up freestyle wrestling, started taking part in competitions and even won prizes. Years went by, and they lived quite a regular life. But then Sumgait happened. The tragic events that happened in that town turned Armenian lives upside down, and convinced many to leave Baku.
The Agasyan family was no exception: in November 1988 they left by plane to Yerevan. For three days, along with many other Armenians, they were kept under guard at Baku airport. Living conditions were tough. In the end their neighbour who was a policeman, Kyamal, helped them get tickets and they were able to fly out. To this day they warmly recall how he helped them. Grigory had finished school at that point and was training to be a tailor while Vladimir was still at school. Before my visit to the Agasyan family in Martuni I had learned that the Aida’s blind grandfather who she had been taking care of for six years had died in August.
Aida and I got into a good discussion. Her daughter-in-law Rita started to lay the table for dessert. While talking I had a look round; it was clean, tidy, well done up. I subsequently found out that Vladimir had been responsible for the home improvements. I asked Aida to talk a bit about life in Baku and in Martuni when they moved over, about the war years and life after the war.
“We didn’t live badly in Baku. Our neighbours were all of different nationalities: Armenians, Azeris, Russians, Legzins, Tatars and others. At no time did any of them get into conflict with each other. Our area was generally working class, and what does a working man need but to make enough for some bread to feed his family? But after Sumgait, it wasn’t that relations got worse as such, but there was definitely a lot of tension. A district police officer lived on the ground floor of our building, and when people got anxious in Baku he said that we shouldn’t leave since things would soon go back to normal. No one attacked our home and we didn’t receive any threats, but deep down we felt that things had been thrown upside down and decided to leave. What was never really in question was where we should go – to Nagorno Karabakh, Martuni, where my husband and I both had roots. Jumping ahead a little, I’ll say that after we moved in 1989 we went back to Baku to resolve legal issues that had to do with our flat. We were able to take the rest of our things including our car, a Moskvitch-2140. When we were packing our things none of the neighbours came out to help. But it has to be said that they didn’t interfere either. One or two of them did come up and ask if maybe we’d reconsider staying.
We exchanged our Baku home for the one we’re living in now. The owner was an Azeri called Knyaz. We filled in all the official forms and officially completed the transfer. We were able to bring over all our things to Martuni, and Knyaz did the same moving his things out. Every last thing of his he took with him to Baku”.
Life in Karabakh – The war
“During the war we suffered a lot: Martuni and the surrounding villages were shelled from the ground and bombed from the air. Once a plane dropped a bomb next to our garden. At that moment I was melting butter. The force of the explosion demolished the balcony, blew out all the windows and a door fell on Abrik who was at home at the time. After the explosion it took me a long time to recover.
“In fact, during the war all three men from our family fought at the front but thank God they all survived healthy and uninjured. Our men came back from the war but so many did not, sorrow met so many Karabakh families. It’s a real tragedy,” said Aida with a sadness in her voice.
At that point Rita brought tea and biscuits. Fruit from their garden was already on the table. We sat down to drink some of their delicious tea and the conversation turned to present day. I found out that Aida is a pensioner, receiving 40 thousand dram, Abrik receives 55 thousand (USD 1 = 481 dram). Outside they keep chickens and about twenty sheep. Not an extravagant life, but they also don’t live in poverty. The conversation came back to their life in Baku. Abrik tells me that for a long time his boss was Ayaz Mutalibov [first president of Azerbaijan] – which was quite a surprise. He explained that Mutalibov switched to party work and that way started to climb the career ladder.
At that moment their neighbour Lyuda came in. Also a refugee, she asked Aida to measure her blood pressure.
Their son Grigory (Grisha for short), a young man with a sporty physique, was sitting on the couch and at first didn’t get involved in the discussion. After we finished our tea I turned to him and found out a lot. In 1989 Grigory was called up to the army where he served for two years. After demobilisation he came to Martuni where his parents and brother were already living. The atmosphere was very tense in Karabakh as all the men were at their posts, defending their homes (and Abrik was no exception). The next day, Grisha signed up to the local self-defence unit. He finally left the army in 1997. His younger brother Vladimir and father Abrik also served.
Life after the war
In Baku Grigory had taken up freestyle wrestling at the Spartak sports club, trained with Arkady Galstyan and was always travelling to take part in competitions where he’d win prizes and he also completed his Masters in Sport. After the war he trained children for a number of years in Martuni and was in charge of the freestyle wrestling group. He then moved with his family to live in Russia permanently, but came back to Martuni about three years later. Grigory has four children and his brother Vladimir has three.
I found Grigory’s life in Baku, his friends, schoolmates and his attitude to the war very interesting.
“It’s hard to tell you definitively about my attitude to the war. My opinion was this: sooner or later this conflict was bound to happen. The preconditions were already there and the tragedy at Sumgait was only the spark. I moved to Karabakh which was the right thing, it being the land of my ancestors, but there were problems. The locals all knew each other very well, who was whose grandchild and who was from which family. But for them we were refugees. But that’s not right. We’re as much from Karabakh as anyone and we’re Armenians, it’s just not right to divide us like that. During the war a lot of our guys died – which is very bad,” said Grigory, pausing.
“I had to fight but I never imagined that my son would have to see the same thing that I lived through. Artur, my son, was called up for active duty in July 2015. On 1 April 2016, when the four-day war began, he was with his friends in Talish. During the offensive their post repelled enemy attacks, for which he and his friends were awarded medals and he was awarded the higher rank of lieutenant. My second son Abrik is currently in the defensive army. My third son, Arsen, is in his fourth year at the Olympic Reserve School in Armenia. At first he was a wrestler but he’s now moved to more classic Greco-Roman fighting, and according to his trainers, he has a lot of potential”.
“What can I say about life in Baku and my friends? I was training to be a tailor, and at the same time managed to work at the Volodarskiy Baku clothing factory. Work was only part-time but the money I earned was ok. After leaving I went back to Baku to pick up my diploma and found out my classmate had been picking up my stipend for me so he was able to give it all to me when we saw each other. At the school I picked up my diploma. Before leaving I sat down with my mates, and then they saw me off,” said Grigory.
Grigory and Rita’s daughter Milena, now in her third year had just gotten home from school. Her parents told me that she goes to a music school so I asked her to sing me a song. Rita of course put her daughter into the national costume who, without hesitation, sang a song in Russian.
As we were leaving, the Agasyan family all come outside and warmly said their goodbyes. It struck me that Abrik wasn’t frowning anymore and, with a big smile, shook my hand to say farewell.
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