{"id":3843,"date":"2016-03-08T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-03-08T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jam-news.net\/az\/feminizm-qafqazli-kisil%c9%99rin-n%c9%99yin%c9%99-lazimdir\/"},"modified":"2020-03-18T10:51:32","modified_gmt":"2020-03-18T10:51:32","slug":"feminizm-qafqazli-kisil%c9%99rin-n%c9%99yin%c9%99-lazimdir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jam-news.net\/az\/feminizm-qafqazli-kisil%c9%99rin-n%c9%99yin%c9%99-lazimdir\/","title":{"rendered":"Feminizm Qafqazl\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259rin n\u0259yin\u0259 laz\u0131md\u0131r?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Birinci – h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 oldu\u011fu kimi sosial-iqtisadi s\u0259b\u0259b<\/span><\/p>\n

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Feminist h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 boynunuza oturub, “çünki s\u0259n ki\u015fis\u0259n! – deyib durmayacaq. O sizin d\u0259 insan oldu\u011funuzun f\u0259rqind\u0259dir. \u0130ndiki iqtisadi v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 ail\u0259 iqtisadiyyat\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259kba\u015f\u0131na idar\u0259 etm\u0259k mümkün deyil. T\u0259bii ki, siz oliqarx, ya da super-ulduz deyilsinizs\u0259. Bütün yükü öz üz\u0259riniz\u0259 götürm\u0259k bizi az qala add\u0131mbaadd\u0131m izl\u0259y\u0259n infarkt v\u0259 insulta “xo\u015f g\u0259ldin” dem\u0259kdir. Yox! Feminist h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 el\u0259 \u0259sl yolda\u015fd\u0131r, o h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 sizin köm\u0259yiniz\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k. Yenid\u0259n öyr\u0259nib, yenid\u0259n karyera quracaq; statusunun azalmas\u0131na raz\u0131 olub, maa\u015f\u0131 daha yüks\u0259k olan i\u015f\u0259 düz\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k. M\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t: onun ba\u015f\u0131na ç\u0131xmay\u0131n! Ax\u0131 o sizin boynunuzda oturmad\u0131! \u018fg\u0259r bütün bunlar\u0131 ed\u0259rk\u0259n o, feminist oldu\u011funu bilmir v\u0259 h\u0259tta bunu inkar edirs\u0259, siz yen\u0259 d\u0259 feminizmi sevin, çünki o sizin dostunuz v\u0259 köm\u0259kçinizdir! M\u0259hz feminizm sizin xan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131za t\u0259hsil v\u0259 güc verib. <\/span>
N\u0259yi qurban verm\u0259li olacaqs\u0131z? “M\u0259n nec\u0259 dedim, el\u0259 d\u0259 olacaq! – ifad\u0259sind\u0259n imtina edin. Bu ifad\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259rhüquqlu partnyorun q\u0259tiyy\u0259n xo\u015funa g\u0259lmir.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0130kinci – siyasi s\u0259b\u0259b <\/span><\/p>\n

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Feminist h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131, partiyada\u015f v\u0259 ya aktivist olan r\u0259fiq\u0259niz sizin bütün m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri h\u0259ll edib bitir\u0259c\u0259yinizi v\u0259 ax\u0131rda da bir-birinizi öldür\u0259c\u0259yinizi oturub gözl\u0259mir. O katib, imza toplayan v\u0259 ya kuryer rolu il\u0259 kifay\u0259tl\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k. Düzdür, t\u0259crüb\u0259d\u0259 ad\u0259t\u0259n m\u0259hz bu statussuz xan\u0131mlar sizin üçün b\u0259yannam\u0259 v\u0259 y\u0131\u011f\u0131ncaqlar\u0131n günd\u0259liyini yaz\u0131rlar. \u018fg\u0259r partiyan\u0131n öz Proqram\u0131 varsa (m\u0259g\u0259r çox partiya onu t\u0259qdim ed\u0259 bil\u0259r?) – \u015fübh\u0259niz olmas\u0131n ki, onu m\u0259hz partiyada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z olan qad\u0131nlar yaz\u0131b. Ads\u0131z-sans\u0131z v\u0259 t\u0259vazökar. Amma bunlar feminizmd\u0259n x\u0259b\u0259ri olmayan qad\u0131nlard\u0131r. Feminist xan\u0131mlar – \u0259sl feministl\u0259r – sizd\u0259n seçki siyah\u0131lar\u0131nda, r\u0259yas\u0259t hey\u0259ti v\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131qlar masas\u0131nda bir az ç\u0259kilm\u0259yi xahi\u015f ed\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r. Narahat olmay\u0131n! \u018fv\u0259zind\u0259 sizi daha az döy\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r v\u0259 dem\u0259k olar ki, at\u0259\u015f\u0259 tutmayacaqlar. Ax\u0131 ba\u015fqa partiyalarda da eyni prosesl\u0259r mü\u015fahid\u0259 olunacaq. Qad\u0131nlar olan yerd\u0259, y\u0259ni d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259r etm\u0259k üçün kifay\u0259t ed\u0259n sayda qad\u0131nlar olan yerd\u0259 is\u0259 daha çox praktisizm v\u0259 daha az \u0259lb\u0259yaxa var. <\/span>
Bunun \u0259v\u0259zind\u0259 siz siyas\u0259tin “qad\u0131n i\u015fi olmamas\u0131 v\u0259 “çirkli olmas\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 q\u0259rib\u0259 fikirl\u0259rd\u0259n uzaq durmal\u0131 olacaqsan. Onu çirkli ed\u0259n siz, ki\u015fil\u0259rsiz. Bu eyn\u0259n m\u0259tb\u0259xd\u0259 oldu\u011fu kimidir. Qad\u0131n\u0131n i\u015ftirak\u0131 il\u0259 orada h\u0259r \u015fey daha s\u0259liq\u0259li olacaq.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Üçüncü – seksual-erotik s\u0259b\u0259b <\/span><\/p>\n

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Qad\u0131n, t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f, sevgili siz\u0259… eee… münasib\u0259tl\u0259r proqram\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259klif ed\u0259c\u0259k, h\u0259min proqram ç\u0259rçiv\u0259sind\u0259 sizin h\u0259r ikiniz\u0259 daha rahat olacaq. O heç n\u0259yi imitasiya etm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k v\u0259 çox a\u011f\u0131r gözl\u0259ntil\u0259r yükünü üstünüz\u0259 y\u0131xmayacaq. \u018fv\u0259zind\u0259 o sizin arzu v\u0259 ist\u0259kl\u0259rinizi anlama\u011fa çal\u0131\u015facaq v\u0259 özününkül\u0259ri d\u0259 dan\u0131\u015facaq. O, sizin seksd\u0259 etibarl\u0131 yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r! Siz tam ümidsiz… eee… y\u0259ni stereotipli deyilsizs\u0259, bu fikrin m\u0259ntiqini düzgün anlayacaqs\u0131z. <\/span>
Bu ssenari eqoistl\u0259r üçün deyil. Q\u0131sqanc adamlar üçün d\u0259 deyil. El\u0259 s\u0259fehl\u0259r üçün d\u0259 deyil. Bu bölümd\u0259 siz heç n\u0259d\u0259n imtina etm\u0259li d\u0259 olmayacaqs\u0131z.<\/span><\/p>\n


Dördüncü s\u0259b\u0259b emosional komfortla ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r<\/span>
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Feminist h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 t\u0259kidl\u0259 sizin u\u015faqlara diqq\u0259tinizi h\u0259v\u0259sl\u0259ndir\u0259c\u0259k. Heç bir z\u0259man\u0259t yoxdur ki, o sizd\u0259n gec\u0259 yar\u0131 u\u015faqlar\u0131n yan\u0131nda durma\u011f\u0131 xahi\u015f etm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k. Ya da u\u015faq bezini d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259yi. Yaxud da s\u0131y\u0131q haz\u0131rlama\u011f\u0131. O, sizi u\u015faq ota\u011f\u0131ndan qovaraq, orada öz kiçik hakimiyy\u0259tini qurmayacaq. Sizi u\u015faq m\u0259tb\u0259xind\u0259n çiyini il\u0259 it\u0259l\u0259yib, ç\u0131xarmayacaq. Yox! O, ümumi övlad\u0131n\u0131zla ünsiyy\u0259t sevincini (\u0259m\u0259yini) sizinl\u0259 s\u0259xav\u0259tl\u0259 bölü\u015f\u0259c\u0259k. V\u0259 siz h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 orada özünüzü laz\u0131ml\u0131 insan kimi hiss ed\u0259c\u0259ksiz! Özünüzü pis hiss ed\u0259n zaman is\u0259 siz q\u0259d\u0259h\u0259 do\u011fru v\u0259 ya yax\u0131nl\u0131qda peyda olan dostunuza deyil, m\u0259hz bura – u\u015faq ota\u011f\u0131na, m\u0259tb\u0259x\u0259 v\u0259 yataq ota\u011f\u0131na can atacaqs\u0131z. Burada öz probleml\u0259riniz, z\u0259ifliyiniz v\u0259 a\u011fr\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131zdan \u015fikay\u0259t ed\u0259c\u0259ksiz, ekoloji t\u0259miz v\u0259 çox s\u0259m\u0259r\u0259li t\u0259s\u0259lli tapacaqs\u0131z. Sizi üst\u0259lik bonuslar da gözl\u0259yir! Qocal\u0131qda kims\u0259 s\u0259nd\u0259n “yan\u0131ndak\u0131 kimdir?” dey\u0259 x\u0259b\u0259r alacaq. O, h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 s\u0259ninl\u0259 ünsiyy\u0259td\u0259n zövq alan q\u0131z\u0131nd\u0131r. Ya da s\u0259nin m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259r ver\u0259n o\u011flun! S\u0259n v\u0259 s\u0259nin feminist xan\u0131m\u0131n (aç\u0131q v\u0259 ya latent) qocalanda, sizin qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 umu-küsü deyil, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 d\u0259st\u0259k haqq\u0131nda ümumi xatir\u0259l\u0259riniz olacaq. <\/span>
Bunun üçün n\u0259 etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r? Sad\u0259c\u0259 t\u0259f\u0259kküründ\u0259n “arvad i\u015fi stereotipini silm\u0259k. Bel\u0259 bir i\u015f mövcud deyil! Sad\u0259c\u0259 görülm\u0259li i\u015f var. Onu da birlikd\u0259 yerin\u0259 yetirin.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Be\u015finci s\u0259b\u0259b – t\u0259kamül<\/span><\/p>\n

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Uza\u011fa v\u0259 yüks\u0259y\u0259 bax, ay ki\u015fi! Ma\u011faralar uzaq keçmi\u015fd\u0259 qal\u0131b. Qula\u011f\u0131na “bizim \u0259n\u0259n\u0259l\u0259r haqq\u0131nda p\u0131ç\u0131ldayan dü\u015fm\u0259nl\u0259rin\u0259 inanma. Yax\u0131ndan baxanda onlar\u0131n aqilliyi \u015fübh\u0259 do\u011furur. Çünki onlar iyerarxiyan\u0131n içind\u0259 ili\u015fib qal\u0131b. H\u0259rbi xidm\u0259t üçün münasib ola bil\u0259rl\u0259r, amma ail\u0259 üçün yox. T\u0259kamül özünün kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r s\u0259rt qanunlar\u0131n\u0131 dikt\u0259 edir. \u015eanl\u0131 keçmi\u015f\u0259 s\u0131\u011f\u0131nmaq ist\u0259yi n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r böyük olsa da, ax\u0131na qo\u015fulmal\u0131 v\u0259 tarixin gedi\u015fat\u0131n\u0131 l\u0259ngitm\u0259m\u0259lis\u0259n. \u018ftrafda ham\u0131 evl\u0259rd\u0259 v\u0259 m\u0259nzill\u0259rd\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 zaman, ma\u011farada qalmaq çox ç\u0259tindir! Getdikc\u0259 daha az xan\u0131m evd\u0259 oturub, s\u0259nin heç d\u0259 h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 real olmayan mamontunu gözl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 raz\u0131 olur. <\/span>
\u0130btidai insanlar\u0131n s\u0131ralar\u0131 xeyli seyr\u0259lib, yolda\u015flar azd\u0131r, ovlama\u011fa adam yoxdur. Bir t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n d\u0259 bir y\u0131\u011f\u0131n mane\u0259: qanunlar, n\u0259 bilim müxt\u0259lif hüquqlar, o cüml\u0259d\u0259n d\u0259 qad\u0131n hüquqlar\u0131. Xülas\u0259, tarixin gedi\u015fat\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 ç\u0131xmaq baha ba\u015fa g\u0259l\u0259 bil\u0259r. T\u0259r\u0259qqi d\u0259 el\u0259 budur. <\/span>
B\u0259s onda nec\u0259 etm\u0259li? Çox sad\u0259: mifl\u0259rd\u0259n imtina et! Stereotipl\u0259ri zibilliy\u0259 at! Bu gününl\u0259 ya\u015fa. V\u0259 t\u0259kamül s\u0259n\u0259 “af\u0259rin dey\u0259c\u0259k. Harmoniya dünyas\u0131 özünd\u0259n, öz qad\u0131n\u0131 v\u0259 öz h\u0259yat\u0131ndan tam raz\u0131 olanlarla t\u0259kmill\u0259\u015f\u0259c\u0259k.<\/span><\/p>\n